Blog Tour: how I write

by Kim on June 12, 2014

Hi guys! First of all, thanks for the sweet comments on Monday’s post! Even though I know I shouldn’t be letting the pregnancy weight get to me, it’s still nice to hear that I’m not alone in body image struggle land.

I totally thought I was over it the next day, and was ready to chalk the whole thing up to hormones, but then, yesterday, I ran into a (male) coworker in the break room, and he felt the need to say, “Wow, you’re looking awfully large for not being due until August!”

So that set me back a little again….

I mean—what?!? Why would you say that?

I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt and assuming he didn’t mean to be hurtful, but how do people not understand that just because you’re talking to a pregnant lady doesn’t mean it’s not still HER BODY you’re talking about anytime you reference her size/appearance?

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Please spread the word: even the most confident pregnant women have their sensitive moments—and, either way, you can rest assured that they’re aware of how they look. If you absolutely have to acknowledge a woman’s pregnancy (and at this point, I’d really rather people just not notice it at all), then the only acceptable comments are “you look amazing!” and other positive and supportive things.

Fitness trainer Sara Haley addressed the stupid preggo comment phenomenon in a recent Huff Post article, where the word “bullying” came up. I guess in a way, you could call it a form of bullying—basically, words are used to to point out something the person can’t control, and the person is left feeling hurt. (Sara followed that up with a post on her blog, saying that bullying was a strong word and it was closer to ignorance. Either way, it’s no good.)

Anyway, I’m actually not here to talk about pregnancy today—I’m participating in a Virtual Blog Tour! I thought this would be a fun way to give you a little behind-the-scenes look at my writing process and to introduce you to a couple of my favorite blogging friends.

I was invited on the tour by one of the sweetest, most genuine bloggers out there: Ashley from My Food ‘N’ Fitness Diaries. Ashley is one of those bloggers whose posts always leave me feeling better than I did when I got there. Her warm spirit, fun daily adventures, and super cute toddler make her blog an absolute joy to follow, and I only hope we’ll get the opportunity to meet IN REAL LIFE someday!

Here’s a little more about Ashley’s blog:

“Ashley documents her adventures in food, fitness, mommyhood, and everything in between. She has a strong passion for living a healthy lifestyle while not missing out on the fun stuff too. Ashley stays active through group fitness classes, running, circuit style workouts, and chasing around her toddler. She loves to cook healthy meals for her family while also enjoying the occasional dessert to satisfy her large sweet tooth. On her blog, you’ll find healthy recipes, fun workouts, mommyhood adventures, and her random ramblings through it all. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.”

Now, onto the tour! I have four questions to answer for ya.

What am I working on?

This blogging business is actually a lot more involved than it might look. I’m constantly trying to carve out little chunks of my day to respond to comments, read other blogs and comment on them, interact on social media, respond to emails, and coordinate with companies on promotion opportunities. I’ve been really fortunate to get to work with lots of companies through my relationships with networks like Fitfluential and Sweat Pink, but phew, it can be a lot to keep track of!

Since I started blogging, my passion for fitness has blossomed like crazy, to the point where I’m now exploring other ways I can pursue it in my life. I got certified as a personal trainer last fall and as a PiYo instructor this spring, and I’m currently working on my certification as a prenatal corrective exercise specialist through Fit for Birth. I have big ideas for how I’d like to use all 3 of them! (More on that coming soon!)

I also have some even more pie-in-the-sky style ideas—like, there are a few eBooks I want to write (ya know, just some eBooks) and some online training style stuff I’d like to pursue. I’m trying to be patient about all that, knowing that now might not be quite the right time to go after it, but I also don’t want to stall out because I’m waiting for “the perfect time.” I want to DO ALL THE THINGS!

That said, I’m one of those people who gets big, crazy ideas every 5-10 seconds, so I have to actively work to rein myself in. I’m glad my poor husband can’t see what goes on in my brain all day—he’d probably have panic attacks on the regular.

How does my work differ than others of its genre?

I used to spend a lot of time thinking about my blogging “niche,” but I eventually realized that as long as you stay true to yourself and what you care about, your blog is going to be naturally unique.

Great blogging is really more about personality than anything else, anyway—like, there are plenty of topics I’ve read about a zillion times, but I’d still jump at the opportunity to hear Gina’s or Katie’s or Caitlin’s or Presley’s take on them.

My recent rebrand was a big step in moving away from the “healthy homemaker” focus I originally thought my blog would have, and more toward the fitness side of things that I’ve become more interested in over the years. My new focus (as I see it in my head, anyway) is more about finding the “sweet spot” in life, where you generally make good, healthy choices in a natural, seamless way, without spending too much energy worrying about every little decision or hanging out on that up-and-down, “on the wagon/off the wagon” rollercoaster.

The sweet spot is about more than just diet and exercise too—it’s about finding a place of true comfort and stability in who you are and what your life looks like.

That’s not to say that I’m in this magical place myself. Life is constantly throwing things at me that threaten to push me off track. The sweet spot is just a target—a place to steer back toward when life trips you up.

Back to the niche thing: I’ve been considering keeping prenatal fitness as a big part of my blog. I’ve obviously been writing about it more lately because I happen to be preggo, but it also feels like there’s a big gap in this area online. Lots of misinformation and nowhere near enough support on the fitness stuff.

So many bloggers will write about it for awhile, have their babies, and never talk about it again, which means there’s a lot of random old prenatal workouts and info on defunct blogs out there. As a pregnant chick who’s been looking for this stuff, I haven’t been super impressed with what I’m finding—so maybe I should help fix it myself??

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That said, I’ll never let myself get too backed into any particular niche, because let’s face it: I’m just going to write about whatever I want. I want to talk about my daily life, my kid (soon to be kiddos), my random thoughts, my deep thoughts, and all the thoughts in between. That’s what blogs are for, right?

Why do I write what I do?

When I started blogging, it was because I’d just become a mom and was paranoid that I was going to lose myself in the process—both my body and my identity. I thought the blog would help keep me motivated, and also give me a writing outlet as a writer-turned-stay-at-home-mom.

2 years into the motherhood gig, I’ve more or less proven to myself that I’m not going to totally fall apart, and in fact, I think I’m a way better version of myself as a mom. (I mean, my kid’s only 2, but so far so good?)

So now my focus is more on dragging others along with me—moms and non-moms alike. Turns out we can all be awesome and fulfilled, despite what our genes and history and perceived limitations might try to tell us. So, uhh, what are we waiting for?

How does my writing process work?

Yeahhh…

Currently, I use a little trick called “flying by the seat of my pants.” I try to sketch out post ideas for the week over the weekend, draft posts on weekday evenings, and then proofread/finalize/publish from work in the morning or over lunch.

It’s not a perfect process, especially when I’m not inspired to write in the evening (I hate to force myself—the results are usually horrifying) or too busy at work (so, like, most of the time). I miss the days of writing during Mason’s naps as a stay-at-home mom, but this is working for now. Ask me again in a year!

As for post ideas—I just go with whatever’s on my mind that week, but I’m also constantly jotting down random ideas for future posts. My Idea Dumping Group document is always bursting at the seams—I’ll probably never get a chance to touch half of what’s there!

 

And I’ve officially talked you to death. You’re in the fetal position right now, aren’t you? Sorry.

That concludes my portion of the blog tour!! Thanks for sticking it out to the bitter end!

I encourage you to keep touring, starting with two of my favorite bloggers. I never miss a post from either of these amazing ladies:

My Heathy Happy Home is a place where Giselle writes all about her adventures as a stay-at-home mom trying to keep her family healthy and happy. A self-proclaimed health and fitness geek, she enjoys learning all about nutrition, health and fitness then sharing with her readers. On My Healthy Happy Home you’ll find a plethora of information from Paleo recipes, kids crafts, workouts and home organizing tips.

Make sure you find Giselle on Facebook,Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest!

Katie is a healthy living blogger who writes about fitness, health and the happiness life brings. On Daily Cup of Kate you’ll find new workouts and healthy recipes but also travel adventures, wedding planning and the occasional craft beer review too :) Hey, how else would you carb load during training for a marathon?

Don’t forget to check Katie out on Instagram and Twitter!

 

Thanks again to Ashley for nominating me to participate in this!

 

Fellow bloggers, what does your writing process look like?

What do you love about your favorite blogs/bloggers?

Do you have some pie-in-the-sky ideas?

xoxo

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Giselle@myhealthyhappyhome June 16, 2014 at 8:25 am

Thank you again for including me! I feel so special :-) On another note, I want to punch that Coworker in the face for you! Grr… Some people! I’ll say it again even though I’m sure you hear it all the time, you look amazing!
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Jade June 13, 2014 at 11:48 am

I could say “Men” saying those kind of things, but it is everybody. I do have to say I got mad at my hubby the other day as he commented on some pictures of an ex that she had sent of her giving birth to her son in the car on the way to the hospital. I was like “Wow, that’s amazing!” and he’s like “Man, did she ever let herself go” and I was like ‘You big d-bag, she’s 9 months pregnant, how else are ‘we’ supposed to look!” This isn’t the first time he has said that about some lady about to pop, you’d think he would learn by now with me constantly nagging him on things not to say about pregnant ladies, but he hasn’t…
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Kim June 13, 2014 at 11:52 am

Geez! At least he has you to keep him in line. :)

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emma @ be mom strong June 13, 2014 at 5:30 am

Great idea for a post… and BTW take that as a compliment for “you look big for being due in August” even though you don’t… the bigger the baby, the healthier the baby and the longer they sleep through the night!!!
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Kim June 13, 2014 at 11:50 am

Thanks for the positive spin! I’ll take all I can get! :)

Although my first son was almost 9 pounds and is still a notoriously bad sleeper. :)

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Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries June 12, 2014 at 11:28 am

Yay! I’m so glad you decided to participate. :) It’s so fun to read about your behind-the-scenes work/thoughts that go into your blog posts. You have easily become one of my favorite bloggers, and I always look forward to reading your various life experiences and thoughts behind different topics. And thank you for such a sweet shoutout! That made my day. :) We will totally meet in person some day. I just know it! xoxo
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Katie @ Daily Cup of Kate June 12, 2014 at 10:50 am

Thanks again for including me!I have a lot of pie-in-the-sky ideas…thanks to Shark Tank I am now trying to come up with a simple invention that will make people say, ” duh, why didn’t I think of that?” (Basically what I say after everything I see on that show) Currently? Some type of clip-in biking shoe that will automatically un-clip if you’re falling off of your bike and don’t have time to yourself. Yeah…I’ll keep brainstorming :)
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Kim June 13, 2014 at 11:58 am

You should totally invent that. :) That’s always my first thought when I see people using those shoes–I feel like I would just forget, and fall constantly.

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Heather @fitncookies June 12, 2014 at 9:49 am

I love reading these blog tours! I think it’s interesting hearing from others. I try to write my posts now on the weekend for the upcoming week. It wasn’t so bad doing it nightly during the winter, but with warm weather, I am not going to pass up fun outside to write a post. I love how real people are in their blog. I like hearing about their life along with the fitness/health/home/baby topics they write about!
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Ashley Pitt @ A Lady Goes West June 12, 2014 at 9:37 am

Hi Kim,

Thanks for participating in the blog tour. I passed it off to Ashley (a fellow Ashley). I love learning about what makes other people want to blog. I think we’re all in the same boat that we write about what we care about, so that comes through in your words. I really enjoy your background on motherhood, because that’s something I’ve not entered yet. Keep up the great work!

Best,
Ashley
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