Hi guys! First of all, thanks for the sweet comments on Monday’s post! Even though I know I shouldn’t be letting the pregnancy weight get to me, it’s still nice to hear that I’m not alone in body image struggle land.
I totally thought I was over it the next day, and was ready to chalk the whole thing up to hormones, but then, yesterday, I ran into a (male) coworker in the break room, and he felt the need to say, “Wow, you’re looking awfully large for not being due until August!”
So that set me back a little again….
I mean—what?!? Why would you say that?
I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt and assuming he didn’t mean to be hurtful, but how do people not understand that just because you’re talking to a pregnant lady doesn’t mean it’s not still HER BODY you’re talking about anytime you reference her size/appearance?
Please spread the word: even the most confident pregnant women have their sensitive moments—and, either way, you can rest assured that they’re aware of how they look. If you absolutely have to acknowledge a woman’s pregnancy (and at this point, I’d really rather people just not notice it at all), then the only acceptable comments are “you look amazing!” and other positive and supportive things.
Fitness trainer Sara Haley addressed the stupid preggo comment phenomenon in a recent Huff Post article, where the word “bullying” came up. I guess in a way, you could call it a form of bullying—basically, words are used to to point out something the person can’t control, and the person is left feeling hurt. (Sara followed that up with a post on her blog, saying that bullying was a strong word and it was closer to ignorance. Either way, it’s no good.)
Anyway, I’m actually not here to talk about pregnancy today—I’m participating in a Virtual Blog Tour! I thought this would be a fun way to give you a little behind-the-scenes look at my writing process and to introduce you to a couple of my favorite blogging friends.
I was invited on the tour by one of the sweetest, most genuine bloggers out there: Ashley from My Food ‘N’ Fitness Diaries. Ashley is one of those bloggers whose posts always leave me feeling better than I did when I got there. Her warm spirit, fun daily adventures, and super cute toddler make her blog an absolute joy to follow, and I only hope we’ll get the opportunity to meet IN REAL LIFE someday!
Here’s a little more about Ashley’s blog:
“Ashley documents her adventures in food, fitness, mommyhood, and everything in between. She has a strong passion for living a healthy lifestyle while not missing out on the fun stuff too. Ashley stays active through group fitness classes, running, circuit style workouts, and chasing around her toddler. She loves to cook healthy meals for her family while also enjoying the occasional dessert to satisfy her large sweet tooth. On her blog, you’ll find healthy recipes, fun workouts, mommyhood adventures, and her random ramblings through it all. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.”
Now, onto the tour! I have four questions to answer for ya.
What am I working on?
This blogging business is actually a lot more involved than it might look. I’m constantly trying to carve out little chunks of my day to respond to comments, read other blogs and comment on them, interact on social media, respond to emails, and coordinate with companies on promotion opportunities. I’ve been really fortunate to get to work with lots of companies through my relationships with networks like Fitfluential and Sweat Pink, but phew, it can be a lot to keep track of!
Since I started blogging, my passion for fitness has blossomed like crazy, to the point where I’m now exploring other ways I can pursue it in my life. I got certified as a personal trainer last fall and as a PiYo instructor this spring, and I’m currently working on my certification as a prenatal corrective exercise specialist through Fit for Birth. I have big ideas for how I’d like to use all 3 of them! (More on that coming soon!)
I also have some even more pie-in-the-sky style ideas—like, there are a few eBooks I want to write (ya know, just some eBooks) and some online training style stuff I’d like to pursue. I’m trying to be patient about all that, knowing that now might not be quite the right time to go after it, but I also don’t want to stall out because I’m waiting for “the perfect time.” I want to DO ALL THE THINGS!
That said, I’m one of those people who gets big, crazy ideas every 5-10 seconds, so I have to actively work to rein myself in. I’m glad my poor husband can’t see what goes on in my brain all day—he’d probably have panic attacks on the regular.
How does my work differ than others of its genre?
I used to spend a lot of time thinking about my blogging “niche,” but I eventually realized that as long as you stay true to yourself and what you care about, your blog is going to be naturally unique.
Great blogging is really more about personality than anything else, anyway—like, there are plenty of topics I’ve read about a zillion times, but I’d still jump at the opportunity to hear Gina’s or Katie’s or Caitlin’s or Presley’s take on them.
My recent rebrand was a big step in moving away from the “healthy homemaker” focus I originally thought my blog would have, and more toward the fitness side of things that I’ve become more interested in over the years. My new focus (as I see it in my head, anyway) is more about finding the “sweet spot” in life, where you generally make good, healthy choices in a natural, seamless way, without spending too much energy worrying about every little decision or hanging out on that up-and-down, “on the wagon/off the wagon” rollercoaster.
The sweet spot is about more than just diet and exercise too—it’s about finding a place of true comfort and stability in who you are and what your life looks like.
That’s not to say that I’m in this magical place myself. Life is constantly throwing things at me that threaten to push me off track. The sweet spot is just a target—a place to steer back toward when life trips you up.
Back to the niche thing: I’ve been considering keeping prenatal fitness as a big part of my blog. I’ve obviously been writing about it more lately because I happen to be preggo, but it also feels like there’s a big gap in this area online. Lots of misinformation and nowhere near enough support on the fitness stuff.
So many bloggers will write about it for awhile, have their babies, and never talk about it again, which means there’s a lot of random old prenatal workouts and info on defunct blogs out there. As a pregnant chick who’s been looking for this stuff, I haven’t been super impressed with what I’m finding—so maybe I should help fix it myself??
That said, I’ll never let myself get too backed into any particular niche, because let’s face it: I’m just going to write about whatever I want. I want to talk about my daily life, my kid (soon to be kiddos), my random thoughts, my deep thoughts, and all the thoughts in between. That’s what blogs are for, right?
Why do I write what I do?
When I started blogging, it was because I’d just become a mom and was paranoid that I was going to lose myself in the process—both my body and my identity. I thought the blog would help keep me motivated, and also give me a writing outlet as a writer-turned-stay-at-home-mom.
2 years into the motherhood gig, I’ve more or less proven to myself that I’m not going to totally fall apart, and in fact, I think I’m a way better version of myself as a mom. (I mean, my kid’s only 2, but so far so good?)
So now my focus is more on dragging others along with me—moms and non-moms alike. Turns out we can all be awesome and fulfilled, despite what our genes and history and perceived limitations might try to tell us. So, uhh, what are we waiting for?
How does my writing process work?
Currently, I use a little trick called “flying by the seat of my pants.” I try to sketch out post ideas for the week over the weekend, draft posts on weekday evenings, and then proofread/finalize/publish from work in the morning or over lunch.
It’s not a perfect process, especially when I’m not inspired to write in the evening (I hate to force myself—the results are usually horrifying) or too busy at work (so, like, most of the time). I miss the days of writing during Mason’s naps as a stay-at-home mom, but this is working for now. Ask me again in a year!
As for post ideas—I just go with whatever’s on my mind that week, but I’m also constantly jotting down random ideas for future posts. My Idea Dumping Group document is always bursting at the seams—I’ll probably never get a chance to touch half of what’s there!
And I’ve officially talked you to death. You’re in the fetal position right now, aren’t you? Sorry.
That concludes my portion of the blog tour!! Thanks for sticking it out to the bitter end!
I encourage you to keep touring, starting with two of my favorite bloggers. I never miss a post from either of these amazing ladies:
- Giselle at My Healthy Happy Home
My Heathy Happy Home is a place where Giselle writes all about her adventures as a stay-at-home mom trying to keep her family healthy and happy. A self-proclaimed health and fitness geek, she enjoys learning all about nutrition, health and fitness then sharing with her readers. On My Healthy Happy Home you’ll find a plethora of information from Paleo recipes, kids crafts, workouts and home organizing tips.
- Katie at Daily Cup of Kate
Katie is a healthy living blogger who writes about fitness, health and the happiness life brings. On Daily Cup of Kate you’ll find new workouts and healthy recipes but also travel adventures, wedding planning and the occasional craft beer review too :) Hey, how else would you carb load during training for a marathon?
Thanks again to Ashley for nominating me to participate in this!
Fellow bloggers, what does your writing process look like?
What do you love about your favorite blogs/bloggers?
Do you have some pie-in-the-sky ideas?