I have a little love-hate relationship going on with—of all things—the library. (First of all: how nerdy is it to have a relationship, of any kind, with the library?)
I love that I can read books for free, but hate that I can neeeever read them fast enough and keep having to max out my renewals and then—still—send them back unfinished.
First world problems, I know…
Case in point: Jillian Michael’s Unlimited, which I think I recently told you I was reading. Well, I can report that the first 100 or so pages were pretty darn thought-provoking, but the rest? Who knows. Ask the next person in line to read it, who will probably be much better at managing their time than I was.
Luckily, I still get my share of Jillian. I’m a devoted podcast listener, and haven’t missed an episode since the day I started my job (and my 30-minute commute).
I’m sure she’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I think this woman is just crazy smart. I don’t even care about her training tips that much anymore—it’s her life coaching that blows me away. If only we were all raised by mothers who are also therapists (I’m sure that helped).
Anyway. In the episode I listened to today, Jillian responded to a caller’s question in what I thought was a pretty surprising way.
The caller had a typical complaint: she was pretty good at working out and watching what she ate during the day, but at night, her dedication started to waver and she’d start giving in to cravings. (Her examples were “two glasses of wine” and “some cheese and crackers while preparing dinner.”) What should she do??
I totally expected J to give the obvious responses: drink a bunch of water first, try to distract yourself with something that’s rewarding but not food (a bath, a magazine, a TV show), bla bla bla you’ve heard it all a million times.
Instead, she asked the woman if she had weight to lose (she didn’t) and whether she was really bingeing on these craving foods (she wasn’t).
And then she said, you know what: you’re fine. It’s totally healthy to have your “treats” in moderation. That’s called living a balanced life.
Eating a 100% flawless clean diet all day and maintaining an outrageously fit figure—that’s not balanced. Your body, in its natural, happy state, doesn’t want to be like that (if you’re a woman anyway), and it’ll fight you tooth and nail on it.
Plus, deprivation just for the sake of deprivation is only going to drive you nuts.
So the question becomes: are your cravings truly unhealthy and something that needs to be overcome, or are you just being a perfectionist?
When J asked why the lady wanted to stop, she said it was because she felt frustrated by her lack of willpower and guilty about her “slips.”
Sounds like perfectionism to me.
I’m totally guilty of this myself. Lately, I’ve been really thinking about going on a sugar detox (this one, specifically) with the goal of training myself to keep my hands out of the chocolate chips in the pantry.
But really, how bad is a handful of chocolate chips here and there? Is it truly sabotaging me, or am I just resentful of the habit because it makes me feel “out of control” in a small way?
What do you think? Are all cravings creating equal?
When should you indulge vs. fight?
At what point is it time to shut down a treat habit?
Do you consider yourself a diet nit-picker or a comfortably moderate eater?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
(P.S. I’m still thinking about that detox…)