Friday Phone Date

by Kim on January 11, 2013

Oh, hey! Happy Friday.

If you’ve had a long week, this should help:


We’re coming up on another low-key weekend (i.e. no planned travel), which I’m pumped about! On the agenda:

Take down the holiday decor. (I usually try to put this off until late January, at the earliest, but I’m weirdly at peace about it this year. Maybe because this Christmas was a little more stressful than past Christmases have been…)

Go to the gym. Not just work out, but actually go to the gym. I’m embarrassed to admit how long it’s been since I’ve actually gone there…and I still have yet to take Mason to the kid center, but I WILL, I promise!

Start writing down a list of my go-to recipes and meals, per my recent recipe rant.

Finish posting stuff for sale on eBay/Craigs per my Salute to Simple plan. (You, too??)

And, of course, there will also be plenty of family and lounging time. On Sunday, I’m volunteering at church again-I’ve been really loving working with the 3-4 year olds this year (last year, I was in the toddler room…COMPLETE CHAOS). Last week, during a Bible story about Jesus healing someone, the teacher said, “Isn’t that amazing? Only Jesus can do that!” and one of the kids-The Skeptic-yelled out, “what about SANTA??” Touché.

Another thing that was cracking me up during that class: one of the kids had, apparently, recently heard the word “buttload,” and kept using it during class, as in “This is a BUTTLOAD of toys!” It was hard to correct him without laughing (especially since he seemed legitimately unaware that this wasn’t an appropriate word for church).

I can’t wait until Mason starts talking, for this exact reason (I mean, not so he’ll say buttload…you know what I mean). I love it when my friends post kid quotes on Facebook-they kill me every time. (Lindsay Sk***, if you’re reading this-yours are my absolute favorites!!) I’m hoping to keep some sort of kid quote book, so we can remember all the hilarious things Mase says over the years. Does anyone else do that??

Anyway, what I really came here to do today was this:

Friday Phone Date

I’m not a big phone talker. Especially if it’s someone I haven’t talked to in awhile, I get nervous about the small-talk part of the conversation. I hate it when we talk over each other accidentally, or when there’s a lull in the conversation, or when I’m not sure how to react because I can’t see the person’s face. I even dread making dumb logistical calls, like to the doctor’s office or credit card company.

But when I do need to catch up with someone on the phone, I like it to be planned. (That way, I can prepare my note cards. Haha.) I like to schedule phone dates.

So, how do Fridays look for you?

If I were having a phone date with you right now, here’s what I’d talk about:

I’d tell you about how we LOVE Mason’s new allergist. We just met with him yesterday and it was awesome. I’m SO glad we pursued a new one after the rocky experience I had with our first doctor. He answered all of my questions, giving me his honest opinions when things didn’t have 100% black-and-white answers. Wow, what a difference. Mom Lesson #4,576: Take the time to find doctors for your kids whom you like and trust. (This should apply to all doctors, really, but I just never cared too much about doctor-patient relationships when it was just me.)

I’d tell you about how I’m considering getting part time work outside of the house. I know. Crazy. It’s not that I don’t love being a stay-at-home mom, because I honestly do. And my writing work is icing on the cake. But sometimes, the days do get long, and being trapped in the same handful of rooms all day, every day just starts to wear on a person. I’m pretty spoiled right now, since Mason takes two solid naps everyday, but what am I going to do when he’s down to one, or none? I’ve always thought that the ideal work/motherhood balance, for me, would include a little of both. I also recently read an amazing article (which, UGH, I can’t find for the life of me now) about a stay-at-home mom who regretted not working more. The thing that stood out to me in the article: she said she spent SO much time with her kids that all the memories blended together-so much so that she could barely recall individual memories with any sort of real clarity.

I’d tell you how frustrated I am trying to get Mason to eat solids. It’s getting to the point where I’m not sure if he’ll be able to eat cake on his 1-year birthday, because he’ll still be eating nothing but purees. It’s kind of embarrassing. I’ve tried and tried and tried to get him to accept other textures, but it’s met with nothing but gagging and vomiting, every time. He won’t even eat those baby puffs, which melt in babies’ mouths (and I’ve never even HEARD of a baby not loving those things!). He literally starts making grossed-out faces the second he sees the puffs on his tray. I guess all I can do is keep trying, but there’s definitely a little, “Why does my kid have to be so challenging when everyone else’s kids seem so easy??” going on. Even my mom, who’s raised seven kids, said (in reference to all of our challenges, not just the solids): “It’s not supposed to be this hard.”

I’d tell you that I’m desperate for a vacation, but also worried that I’m years away from one. I mean, it’s January…who isn’t thinking about beaches? I’ve been lucky to be able to take a vacation-like a real vacation, out of state and often out of country-every year for most of my life. But now that we’re in the “young kids” phase of our lives, I feel like I have to kiss all that goodbye. I’m not sure how long it will take before I’m comfortable leaving Mason behind for, say, a week…not to mention that we’re in a totally different place, financially, now.

Phew. So that’s what’s on my mind these days.

It’s kind of sad that an intimate, phone date type chat usually equates to “here’s a list of my current complaints.” Right??

So, your turn.

What’s something you’d talk about on our phone date?


{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Tiffany January 12, 2013 at 3:16 pm

I really enjoy reading your blog and your honesty in putting out there what your thinking/feeling. Makes me feel connected to ya!


Kim January 12, 2013 at 4:59 pm

Thanks Tiff! :)


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