Learning to unwind

by Kim on October 2, 2014

Yesterday was one of those “I had a million things to do, but instead (thanks to kids), I did zero of them” kind of days.

Mason threw me for a major loop by blowing off his nap for the first time EVER (he’s usually a predictable, solid 2-3 hour/day napper), Joshua was his usual “hold me ALL DAY LONG” self, and I barely managed to eat 5 bites of food all day.

Then, I had a photo shoot at 5 PM for the city Moms Blog I recently joined, which, thanks to craziness at home and ridiculous rush hour traffic, I was a full 45 minutes late for. It didn’t help that I was meeting the whole group for the first time ever, and all I had to say for myself was “sorry, umm—kids??”

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The most ambitious selfie ever. Can you find me?

By the end of the day (after spending two hours trying to get Josh down for the night…why did he suddenly forget how to sleep??), I was spent. I needed to do something to unwind, but everything I could think of to do was something that felt like work—cleaning the house, working out, freelance work, blogging, etc.

My husband, like most men of his generation (it seems), plays video games.

I think that’s my problem—I don’t have any video games in my life.

I want video games.

Not actual ones of course—LAME (unless you play them, then, cool! haha)—but the equivalent. Something 100% fun and relaxing and not brain-taxing.

I like to read…but then the book ends, and I have to try to find another one I actually want to read (I’m super picky about books), and then it’s never as good as the one I just finished…

I like yoga…but I can’t do it at home (too many distractions/other things I “should” be doing)…and it’s stressful leaving Josh right now to go to a class…and I’d want to do it at odd hours…and, of course, $$$$…

I like reading blogs…but then I also want to leave comments, and I can’t think of anything interesting to say when I’m tired…and then I just start thinking about how I should be working on my own blog…

I’m great at mindlessly browsing the internet, but I somehow always end up finding things that stress me out (a workout…I need to work out! a recipe…I need to cook!).

TV’s cool, but I only really like it if something’s “on,” and binge-watching HGTV just makes me feel like I’m wasting my life away.

In the end, last night, I had a beer and went to bed. Hey, I love both of those things, and find both 100% relaxing.

Which I guess is probably the moral of the story…when one is tired, one should just sleep.

Mind blown, right?

Do you have any “video games”?


What do you do to unwind?




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lacey@fairytalesandfitness July 18, 2015 at 8:12 pm

That’s funny. I thought my guy was the only one still playing video games. I like to read as well but I always find myself playing candy crush on my iPad inset at night.
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lacey@fairytalesandfitness July 18, 2015 at 8:10 pm

That’s funny. I thought my guy was the only one that still played video games. I like to read as well but I find myself playing candy crush on my iPad instead at night.


Jill November 7, 2014 at 12:28 pm

Transcendental meditation! The most difficult things to force myself to learn, but the most useful tool.

Also, watching travel shows…no better escape, and it kind of feels productive at the same time, because you’re learning something :)
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ErikaMC October 3, 2014 at 2:26 pm

I read or take a bath – reading in the tub is great too. I also knit or paint my nails to keep my hands busy. We also just got a wii system so my husband and I have been playing tennis together on that. Or I snack :)


Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:57 pm

Ah, the wii is an awesome idea. My husband and I really need something we can do together at home besides watch TV!


Fiona October 3, 2014 at 12:33 pm

Pinterest, good TV and reading blogs are the way I unwind. Fore some reason reading blogs right before I go to sleep just seems to help unwind me..not sure why! Beer works too! As funny as it sounds I used to love knitting! It was just so good to sit and focus on something ‘mindless’ but still end up making something in the end!!! Could be a new hobby?


Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:55 pm

I’ve actually thought about that! My only problem is that there’s nothing knit that I really want to make right now. Hmm. Maybe regular sewing? I do actually have a sewing machine that was handed down to me, and that I can barely use…


Fiona October 3, 2014 at 2:57 pm

I actually used to just knit for the sake of knitting!!! I made a super long ‘scarf’ which never became anything!! I just did it for the relaxation part!!!


char eats greens October 3, 2014 at 6:04 am

I need to find what helps me unwind too. Ugh, I feel ya on everything right now. It’s 7am currently and I’ve been up with Nia for a few hours. Girl is acting like she slept 24 hours and I feel like I’ve been hit by a bus. I can tell this is going to be a spectacular day…
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:53 pm

Nooo so sorry! Silly toddlers!

Just remember: you’re spending the winter in FLORIDA this year!!! So you can’t possibly feel down, ever again. ;)


Giselle October 2, 2014 at 11:13 pm

I think that women are smarter than men and have more thoughts running through our heads which is why it’s harder for us to unwind. That plus we are the ones who take care of everyone. The mothership. So our minds are constantly going. I have a hard time unwinding sometimes too especially lately on my late training nights. There were a few nights of not getting home until 11:00 then going straight to bed exhausted. BUT… then I lay there until 1:00 or so with my mind racing. So I began coming home, taking a shower then making a hot mug of sleepy time tea. Instead of browsing my Instagram feed I try reading to wind down while sipping my tea and it’s helped!
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:51 pm

Haha I don’t know if women are smarter but I think we definitely have a lot more thoughts buzzing in our brains at all times! So hard to turn that off sometimes!

I hate it because I know stress is so bad for the body, and then I get stressed out ABOUT being stressed out, and it’s a vicious cycle…ha!

Reading in bed is definitely my favorite, if I have a good book. I’m not sure if this counts, but I’m reading the New Rules of Lifting for Women right now and it’s awesome! Have you read it?? :)


Katie @ Live Half Full October 2, 2014 at 8:52 pm

Don’t you wish you could shut off like your husband!? I sure do! My thing is a bubble bath… sometimes with a book and wine, sometimes just the quiet… to unwind.
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:48 pm

Haha I love how that last part rhymed. A book and wine is perfect. I wish I could be happy with just quiet, but I’d probably be reaching for my phone to entertain me. :)


Ashley Pitt @ A Lady Goes West October 2, 2014 at 5:15 pm

That’s really funny you say that, because I’ve always wished I had a “video game” as well. I spend a lot time scrolling through Instagram or mindlessly looking at Pinterest in the evenings. But my favorite way to relax is watch some TV on the couch with my husband. We go through different series on Netflix and are usually hooked on some show. Cute selfie! Looking forward to hearing more about this mom’s blog group. :)
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:45 pm

I’m the same exact way. I love the mindless scrolling but I want something just a *TINY* bit more productive-feeling. Not much though, of course. :) Yeah, I’m super excited about the moms blog! Seems like a really fun group. I’ll be writing monthly posts for our city’s blog. (They have moms blogs all over the country, it’s pretty cool!)


Katie @ Daily Cup of Kate October 2, 2014 at 4:37 pm

Oh men and video games… I like to unwind with a glass of wine, a book and nobody else around ;)
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Sounds perfect :)


Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries October 2, 2014 at 4:16 pm

I think men make unwinding and chilling out so much easier. Haha! Whenever I try to unwind, it typically turns into thinking about how I should be doing something else and then doing that something else. However, I have gotten better at the whole unwinding thing over the past couple years. Thankfully! My ways to unwind mostly involve browsing Instagram, watching a show (thanks Netflix!), or reading a book. I’m picky about both books and shows, so they really have to be good, but I try to always have one on my radar so I can turn to it when I finish my current book/show. ;)
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:42 pm

I’m the same exact way about shows/book. I was hoping to get into Orange is the New Black, but just couldn’t, so we’ve been kind of lost in Netflix land lately. Thank goodness for Parenthood, but now I have to wait a whoooooole week between episodes. TORTURE! :)


Karen October 2, 2014 at 3:59 pm

My “video game” is Netflix, the best $8 of the month. It’s even kind of productive because when you finish a series, it’s like finishing a book!
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Kim October 3, 2014 at 2:40 pm

Totally agree! We do that too, we’re just “out” of shows right now. Any recommendations for a new one?? :)


Karen October 3, 2014 at 5:18 pm

Have you seen Sherlock?? It’s one of the only (maybe THE only??) show that my boyfriend and I both loved. The only problem is that each series only has 3 episodes, and each episode is about an hour and a half. But so good!

I’m not sure what kind of shows you’re into, but I pretty much like dramas without politics, vampires, or aliens. Once Upon a Time, Desperate Housewives, and Pretty Little Liars (ugh, embarrassing) are 3 shows I got sucked into!
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