The Difference Between Men and Women

by Kim on November 16, 2012

One of my husband’s biggest pet peeves is restaurants that serve teeny, tiny little plates of food. Tapas restaurants are to him what steakhouses are to vegetarians.

I think this is what he sees:

tiny food (source)

If he’s somehow tricked into visiting one of these places, he’ll make several references to burgers and pizza during the “meal” (he would use quotes there) and then dive into the fridge the minute we get home.

Meanwhile…I love tapas. I love restaurants with teeny, tiny plates of food, because the only reason those plates get away with being so tiny is that the food is usually mind-blowingly awesome. Plus, I get to try a variety of carefully coiffed (yes, coiffed-aka kwoft) delicacies I wouldn’t normally get to eat, and I’m forced to take my time and appreciate each bite because, well, there aren’t that many there. (Plus, I don’t feel like a blimp when I walk out the door, and I have plenty of room left for wine. Which is important.)

I don’t think I’m the only woman who feels this way. And I’m positive Brent’s not the only man who feels the way he does.

When I first got married, I realized that if I was going to cook, I was going to have to find a way to balance my chick-food girl palate and my husband’s burgers-and-beer man palate.

beerOk…I like beer too. And burgers. And pretzel necklaces. 

3 years later, I’m still getting challenged by this, and by other things that come with the territory when you’re married/living with a man.

–I don’t want to slather butter on everything, but I also want him to think I’m a decent cook. I try to balance healthier meals with the occasional more decadent foods, just so he remembers what I’m capable of (haha!). If I make something I know won’t hit his Top Foods list, I’m always quick to advertise what he’s getting for his sacrifice (“but it’s crazy healthified!”)-luckily, he cares about that stuff too, so he’ll relax the Man Rules a bit to accommodate.

–He doesn’t want tofu and veggies everyday. I don’t want beef everyday. It’s hard to find happy-medium meals that appeal to both sides, but they’re out there. Our go-to is Mexican food-hearty, but often pretty healthy too.

–I don’t need to eat as much as he does (portion wise). I have to remember this.

–Sometimes we sabotage each other. If I want ice cream, he’ll usually join me. If he cracks a beer, suddenly I want one. But we can also deter each other-if I’m craving something naughty and he’s not interested, I’ll suddenly be all “well I’m not going to eat it alone…” and that’ll be the end of it.

–I have to be careful about introducing new foods to the standard lineup. The first time I made tofu, I did a horrible job and it tasted like crap, which led to him think “tofu=bad.” Now, I make it this way, and he’s admitted to thinking tofu is actually good.

What are your thoughts on teeny, tiny plates of food?

Do you have any go-to man-AND-woman friendly meals?


{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Joann @ Woman in Real Life November 16, 2012 at 10:01 am

I’m kind of a plate-full-of-food gal. I like to fill up! ;) But I could do the tapas if I got a LOT of little plates. I’m lucky because my husband and I both go for tofu and veggies.


Kim November 16, 2012 at 10:05 am

Oh, of course, I like a lot of little plates too. :) Very nice that you and your husband are on the same page!


Jenny November 16, 2012 at 9:26 am

I still need to learn to cook tofu! You may have to give me a tutuorial :)

Burgers are one of my go-to meals when cooking for both men and women (can be beef, but I usually make turkey or bison burgers). Men can load it on a bun with all sorts of whatevers, and women can do the same or eat it sans-bun as is or over a salad. I like to make sweet potato fries on the side. Mmm…


Kim November 16, 2012 at 9:32 am

LOVE sweet potato fries! For tofu–check out the tutorial I linked, it’s from the Daily Garnish blog. Super simple and comes out flawless every time. :)


lindsey November 16, 2012 at 9:15 am

My husband hates Tapas too. I LOVE them, pretty much for the same reasons you posted. Go to meal on the healthy side: Twice baked sweet potatoes-mexican style. bake sweet potatoes, scoop out insides and mix with black beans, peppers, tomatoes, onions and spices and a dollop of sour cream. plop back in ‘shells’ and bake a few more mins. (i know you can’t do the dairy… but for next time!) keep up the good work and good luck with all of your diet challenges!!


Kim November 16, 2012 at 9:34 am

Thanks for the recipe idea, Lindsey, those sound awesome!! Seriously, add a Mexican twist and everyone’s happy. :)


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